Going to Penang

Penang here i come!!! i will be there to gain wait.. my friends and i will be going there with the objective of eating! lol... anyway it is also a good time to go out to some outing to reduce my stress level

Whats next? Taiwan & sabah trip... surely i will be broke after all these plus cny coming... got to find some part time job... anyone can introduce?lol

Have you ever asked yourself what are you doing here?

Recently i have been asking myself what am i doing here? What am i trying to achieve by being here? What could i obtain when i am here? What will happen if i am here?

Answers:-

1. Money
2. knowledge
3. bright future
4. provide better life for my family
5. to give joy and laughter for my family and friends
6. to develop someone
7. to satisfy my needs and achieve some wants
8. sense of belonging
9. achieve my ambition
10. reach my life goal
11. reduce my weakness and develop my strength
12. etc

Now can you do this elsewhere? the answer is always yes but are you sure you want it?

I am sure many do not understand my question and answers. If you understood, then you may be having the same shit as me but different day and venue... lol

THEY are involved in my mood and temper

Who are they? of course they are my wife and daughter.

You see after a tough day at work, my only wish is to return home and be next to my family. The very first moment i see my room, wife and daughter it will play a big role towards my temper and mood for the remaining of hours of that day.

Now here are all the ifs that will happen

If i return home and find my wife playing with my daughter happily, i know i will have a very good mood. I enjoy seeing both of them playing. It really makes my day. When they are happy i will too

If i return home and my daughter came running to hug me, then i know it will be a good evening. My pampered daughter will come hugging me and kiss me on the cheek. This shows that she misses me and like me to be home

If i return home seeing my wife with a sweet smile. This will be a good day also because she is happy and i will think i did a good job as a husband, which is to give her a good life and remove her stress

If i return home and both of them dont bother and mind their own business, this day is a moderate mood day. Well they dont care of my return

If i return home and both of them are argueing, it will be a bad day.

If i return home seeing either one crying, it will be a bad day

If i return home and my wife just cleaned the room, it will be a good day because its comfortable. Then i will wash the toilet happily... lol

if i return home and my daughter trashed up the room, its a bad day because its messy and it will mess up my mind

If i return home and both of them are sleeping, then i will know i have a good day

actually there are more ifs but i could not recall now. Maybe when i recall i will reblog about it... lol

How parents always lose contol on their Child

As we could read on the Internet, there are always many stories that tell parents how they should never lose their temper on their children. Well, its always easier said than done. I recently recall a story about how a boy would like to borrow some money from his father to buy his father's time. No matter how many times i read the story, its always touching.

Well this is something that i could not do for my daughter. i am losing quality time with her. Everyday i may be at home but after a tough day at work, i don't seem to be able to find energy for her.Even at the weekend, i think i don't spend enough time with her. Maybe i am a little greedy to hope for more time with her but i think i owe my wife and daughter an apology. Why? for not spending enough time with them

Every since i joined this new company, i am always required to do many jobs which in turn caused me to work overtime. Even if i dont work overtime, i still have problems controlling my temper. Well i just lost it again recently. It must be tough for Shuen because i could even see fear on my wife. No i did not beat her because my wife and i promise never to beat our child whenever we are angry yet they are already that scared. Am i really that scary? Maybe... because my voice is loud and my angry face could scare a lion away. Just like how Zhang Fei scared Cao Cao and his troops with just a loud roar.

Now back to topic on how to control our temper. My solution and best way to do so is with the help from our better half, our spouse. Most of the time when one of the parent is angry, the other may be at normal mood. This is where he/she should intervine between the parent and the child. S/he should pull the child away from the angry person. I find that this is the best way because it allows time for the angry parent to calm down and think of their mistake

Another way which i think is useful is to walk away from the child when you are angry. I always do that and i know it works. When a person is angry, S/he will have some kinda chemical which causes angryness to happen. when time passes, this will reduce and angryness shall leave you.

Why should we not scold our child? Because they are naive and innocent. they do not know what is happenning around us. Like the chinese always say (the person who dont know is not at fault). Besides, they are following our example. If we beat them when they are naughty, we are teaching them that whenever anyone is naughty, we must beat. This will cause your child to beat anyone who is naughty including their friends and family.

I think i am a failure as a dad. I dont have much time for my daughter, i scold her when she is naughty and i also spank her when she does wrong. Eventhough its just a small light spanking but it already program her that beating is a solution to naughtyness.

Now, she is soundly asleep clinging to her mother who is also in deep slumber. What am i doing? well i intend to join them in dreamland but i need to cool myself down. My damn aircond is not cold enough to cool down my temper. Shits happens in the company.

Same shit different day....I always tell myself not to bring my work problems home but its just easier said than done. I usually do well at controlling my temper but i think its not good enough.

On the other hand, do you know that my wife and daughter play some role in my mood? Well i will write this on my next blog

Organizations and bosses

Organizations will definately have bosses and from what i know, most bosses behave the same. in front of their staffs, they act as if the organization is doing well but deep down below they know something is rotting.

Some bosses are too hard headed to listen. It is obvious that something needs to be done but because they are reluctant to invest more money, they put the blame somewhere and put a challenge on you. Now whats worse is they did not realize that its causing people to leave

anyway better dont talk too much... just need to stay focus on my ambition. if all did not go well on this ship, find another cruise... there will always be some ship which is more suitable for me

Close to giving up

Every night i frighten myself before i sleep. I never felt like this before in the past. Recently there are something that pressure me which caused insomnia. I did not sleep well... there are many things in my head... i think i made a wrong move some where...

To make matters worse, i think i might have gotten someone else into my trouble... i got my close friend into trouble.well whats done is done... now to find solution...

Jason's Words of Wisdom

Recently my good ex-boss was kind enough to send me words of wisdom daily. After accumulating for some days, here is what i recieved from him. The reason i post about it is because maybe in the near future it might come in handy. Besides, SMS very soon will be all gone. Better write it down somewhere and i chose to Blog about it (Its been some time since i last blogged)

1. Lao Tzu

· To become an excellent leader, you have to abandon addiction to praise from above and flattery from below. The excellent leader leads least. He studies the distinctive skills and the natural inclinations of both those above and below, and he directs their attention to accomplish what is required to benefit all. when this has been done, all declare they have been part of a worthwhile purpose

· when you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare and compete, everyone will respect you

2. Confucius

· There are three principles of conduct of which the man of high rank should consider especially important. that is his deportment and manner he keep from violence and hardness; that in regulating his countenance he keep near sincerity; and that in his words and tones he keep from lowness and impropriety

· If one learn from others but does not think, one will be bewildered. if on the other hand, one thinks but does not learn from others, one will be at peril

· When we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves

3. Indira Gandhi

· There are 2 kinds of people, those who do the work and those who take the credit. Try to be in the first group; there is less competition there

4. Paramahansa Yogananda

· There is a magnet in your heart that will attract true friends.That is the magnet of unselfishness, thinking of others first. When you learn to live for others, they will live for you

5. Morita Akio

· If you go through life convinced that your way is always best, all the new ideas in the world will pass you by

6. Unknown

· He who sacrifice his conscience to ambition burns a picture to obtain the ashes

· He who asks is a fool for five minutes but he who does not ask remains a fool forever

The important moral for all these quotes are not the words but the value it brings - by marriedmansmoments!